If you’re a manger, you have to be in different mindsets at different times:
Doer: As a doer, you work in an individual capacity: If you’re an engineering manager, code. If you’re a design manager, design something. If you’re a sales manager, make some sales calls. Unless you’re down in the trenches doing the day-to-day work at least one day a week, you can’t manage well, and will become a pointy-haired boss.
Coach: As a coach, you observe what people are doing, identify problems, and suggest how they can do better. You find out what people want to achieve and help them get there.
Tie-breaker: As a tie-breaker, you pick one option  when different people are advocating different directions, and the team can’t go in all directions at once.
Enforcer: You enforce standards of behavior, working style of the team, process (“Why didn’t you do a QA before launching the new version of our product?”)… This is a mindset you should take up only when needed.
As a manager, you have to play these different roles, and be in these different mindsets from time to time.
 Try to take good aspects of rejected options and see how you can put them into effect.